Getting over someone

[bch.skis]

I have this ex who I just can’t get over no matter how great the girl I’m at the time is. I don’t necessarily like the ex but everytime I meet someone new I compare and see that I didn’t immediately connect so I disregard it. How do I solve this?

 

[deac]

ski and smoke hella za

 

[armchair_skier]

tripping over a girl is like top 3 whackest things you can do

 

[JevanqauviousIII]

the best way to get over her is to go and chase more girls until she becomes a vivid memory and then go into a constant cycle of pain and misery ?

 

[Dani-B]

Been there for sure man. It can be a long process and feel shameful to go through, especially if others around you don't get what you're going through.

If you aren't already, take steps to not be around her. No hangs, no cohabitating, no texting, no creeping their socials (I find that last one super hard to do). Unfriend/unfollow them if you have to. Some call this 'going no contact'. You might have to work with your friends if you both have mutuals and explain that you need space from her and might be missing out on group stuff for a while.

Also make a literal list of the pros and cons of this person. This exercise allows you to objectively see what you liked about them and the things you didn't. Use that list as a guide for qualities you want and don't want in someone else in the future. The list helps you detach qualities from any one person: the things we liked in one person can absolutely be found in others!

This one's deep: sometimes a person we were infatuated with can also reflect subconscious desires for other things: a lifestyle we want, or things or choices we feel we can't have but they do. Being around them gives us a shortcut to those things. They can be an escape from the discomforts in our own life. We feel we need them in our live to be closer to having these things, when in reality we can get these things for ourselves if we are willing to do the hard work and break down the barriers we have created to protect ourselves.

A healthy, stable relationship that is going to last won't always have the same sparks and intense energy that some people can give us. I am guilty also of prematurely turning down people who didn't give me that 'spark'.

 

[PsychicMigration]

If you jerk of on the lift you'll associate it with good times and combine that with skiing there.... you'll never need another girl again

 

[bch.skis]

the best way to get over her is to go and chase more girls until she becomes a vivid memory and then go into a constant cycle of pain and misery ?

yeah and only horrible people so it feels like she’s the one

 

[bch.skis]

Been there for sure man. It can be a long process and feel shameful to go through, especially if others around you don't get what you're going through.

If you aren't already, take steps to not be around her. No hangs, no cohabitating, no texting, no creeping their socials (I find that last one super hard to do). Unfriend/unfollow them if you have to. Some call this 'going no contact'. You might have to work with your friends if you both have mutuals and explain that you need space from her and might be missing out on group stuff for a while.

Also make a literal list of the pros and cons of this person. This exercise allows you to objectively see what you liked about them and the things you didn't. Use that list as a guide for qualities you want and don't want in someone else in the future. The list helps you detach qualities from any one person: the things we liked in one person can absolutely be found in others!

This one's deep: sometimes a person we were infatuated with can also reflect subconscious desires for other things: a lifestyle we want, or things or choices we feel we can't have but they do. Being around them gives us a shortcut to those things. They can be an escape from the discomforts in our own life. We feel we need them in our live to be closer to having these things, when in reality we can get these things for ourselves if we are willing to do the hard work and break down the barriers we have created to protect ourselves.

A healthy, stable relationship that is going to last won't always have the same sparks and intense energy that some people can give us. I am guilty also of prematurely turning down people who didn't give me that 'spark'.

yeah the spark is a thing I understand. Ts was so profound and insightful why tf are u on Newschoolers

 

[bch.skis]

If you jerk of on the lift you'll associate it with good times and combine that with skiing there.... you'll never need another girl again

already do

 

[smokes]

Read Psalm 16 and 73, become like this man and ski with a smile on your face with no worry, only wisdom

 

[Dani-B]

yeah the spark is a thing I understand. Ts was so profound and insightful why tf are u on Newschoolers

Came for the culture, stayed to impart life advice as-needed

 

[arnie_grape]

I am going to prescribe some cement pills so you can harden the fuck up.

 

[GayWolf420]

Life goes on, you grow up, and learn to not care about shit like that sometimes.

 

[PeppermillReno]

I don't think you should give up this easy. Win her back if its meant to be and you are thinking about her. I would make a plan to call or text once an hour and show up at her job every day until she changes her mind and wants to get back together with you.

 

[officechair]

Delete from Facebook, lawyer up, hit the gym

 

[iDontHitRails]

Watch a bunch of YouTube vids about WW2 and tanks. Works 100% of the time

 

[bch.skis]

I don't think you should give up this easy. Win her back if it’s meant to be and you are thinking about her. I would make a plan to call or text once an hour and show up at her job every day until she changes her mind and wants to get back together with you.

okay I’ll try it and imma sneak in her house too

 

[devstacks]

Also make a literal list of the pros and cons of this person. This exercise allows you to objectively see what you liked about them and the things you didn't. Use that list as a guide for qualities you want and don't want in someone else in the future. The list helps you detach qualities from any one person: the things we liked in one person can absolutely be found in others!

pros and cons list did not help there are no cons

i'm cooked

 

[bch.skis]

pros and cons list did not help there are no cons

i'm cooked

Dw bro tn I learned all the cons her ass pathetic now and now I’m over her.

 

[Dani-B]

pros and cons list did not help there are no cons

i'm cooked

Haha, but what you do next is isolate in your mind those pros from this chick because they can be found in others!

 

[bch.skis]

Haha, but what you do next is isolate in your mind those pros from this chick because they can be found in others!

Okay imma do that thanks

 

[Dlonetti]

Been there for sure man. It can be a long process and feel shameful to go through, especially if others around you don't get what you're going through.

If you aren't already, take steps to not be around her. No hangs, no cohabitating, no texting, no creeping their socials (I find that last one super hard to do). Unfriend/unfollow them if you have to. Some call this 'going no contact'. You might have to work with your friends if you both have mutuals and explain that you need space from her and might be missing out on group stuff for a while.

Also make a literal list of the pros and cons of this person. This exercise allows you to objectively see what you liked about them and the things you didn't. Use that list as a guide for qualities you want and don't want in someone else in the future. The list helps you detach qualities from any one person: the things we liked in one person can absolutely be found in others!

This one's deep: sometimes a person we were infatuated with can also reflect subconscious desires for other things: a lifestyle we want, or things or choices we feel we can't have but they do. Being around them gives us a shortcut to those things. They can be an escape from the discomforts in our own life. We feel we need them in our live to be closer to having these things, when in reality we can get these things for ourselves if we are willing to do the hard work and break down the barriers we have created to protect ourselves.

A healthy, stable relationship that is going to last won't always have the same sparks and intense energy that some people can give us. I am guilty also of prematurely turning down people who didn't give me that 'spark'.

this prolly the best advice thats ever been given on newschoolers

 

[bch.skis]

this prolly the best advice thats ever been given on newschoolers

top 3 smartest things said on ns

 

[Dlonetti]

top 3 smartest things said on ns

might have to screenshot this one in case I need it

 

[iH8pow]

Don’t be like Juice WRLD and cry to her that she ruined your life so you hope you overdose and die while simultaneously calling other guys bitches and pussies before ultimately overdosing and dying

 

[SmokedGouda]

Grow another dick. use that one on the new women. Then when she comes back, she'll remember you just how it was. On the plus too, you'll now have 4 balls so your skiing should improve dramatically. Just don't have a ball thrown down there or it'll be a clusterfuck of sweaty dick pain.

 

[bch.skis]

Grow another dick. use that one on the new women. Then when she comes back, she'll remember you just how it was. On the plus too, you'll now have 4 balls so your skiing should improve dramatically. Just don't have a ball thrown down there or it'll be a clusterfuck of sweaty dick pain.

I have 7 2 inch dicks already I can’t handle another

 

[SmokedGouda]

Those goddamn 2 inchers. Gets me every time duude!!

 

[bch.skis]

Those goddamn 2 inchers. Gets me every time duude!!

It doesn’t get bitches tho?

 

[STEEZUS_CHRI5T]

This one's deep: sometimes a person we were infatuated with can also reflect subconscious desires for other things: a lifestyle we want, or things or choices we feel we can't have but they do. Being around them gives us a shortcut to those things. They can be an escape from the discomforts in our own life. We feel we need them in our live to be closer to having these things, when in reality we can get these things for ourselves if we are willing to do the hard work and break down the barriers we have created to protect ourselves.

This is really good