Eating Disorders

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MoreSteezePleaz

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So my girlfriend finally admitted to having some sort of eating disorder today...she makes herself throw up but doesnt binge or any of that stuff so i dont know

anyway, how do i help? do i support her or give her an ultimatum, or what...

thoughts?

 
Its in her head.

Be very understanding and interested. Be extremely supportive, but push for her to go to her docter. Parents dont have to know...yet.

above all, she needs to understand that you dont like the fact that she isnt healthy, and being 100% herself.

Also, Ladies men cult por favor.
 
Tell her instead of puking just eat less. every girl has an eating disorder unless theyre fattys but bulemia is realllllly bad for her esophogus. tell her look dont make yourself puke you look amazing baby but if you want to watch your weight lets change our diets and work out together! you guys can both eat wayyy healthier and make the initiative to go running and go to the gym together! I'm sory to hear it that sucks but its all good there are definitely ways to help out! be sure to call her beautiful and tell her how much you love her and that she doesn't need to vomit to stay beautiful!
 
lolwut? I think you might have that kinda backwards... if you're fat, you have an eating disorder.

but for op the best thing would be to get her inter nutrition as a means of controlling weight and stress. it's a tough loop once you get stuck. she feels bad about something, so she throws up. then she feels worse about everything cause she's malnourished, so she throws up again.

maybe get her to do a fresh juice fast for a couple weeks? she can drink as little as she wants and her body will start to get the nutrients it's been craving so her brain chemistry can fix itself.

 
watch out with those compliments 'cause you dont know how long shes been doing it for....

However working together to achieve a healthy lifestyle is a good idea.
 
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I think if she is confiding in you the worst thing you can do is abandon her or judge her. People have addictions, that is part of being a human being. As a male I admit that I do not get the throwing up thing or the starving yourself bit, but just as many women could never understand snorting a line of white powder up your nose, so I guess its a wash. She needs professional help, period. I had a good friend go through this same thing.
 
Tell her that you're there to support her no matter what and that you'll help her through it. If she realizes she has a problem, she may be more willing to seek help from a professional, so try to push her toward that, but never come off as condescending and always try to make her feel good about herself.
 
it's not as simple as that. at first it starts out where you do it to make yourself feel better. but there's a point where it becomes an addiction. You NEED it. you can't get through a day without doing it, and eating makes it that much worse. you stop eating certain foods because you can't stand them coming back up. You become secretive, isolated, scared of people finding out at every turn and the HARDEST part is telling people you love about it. it's the judgement, the disappointed looks, the looks that you know are asking "what the fuck is wrong with you, how the hell could you do this to yourself" . you don't think that people with an ED believe that every single person they walk by in a day is judging them? . it's not something that you can just wake up one day and say "hey i'm going to STOP starving myself and make myself eat then puke it all up, then do it all over again". It's like any other disorder - take alcoholism - once an alcoholic always an alcoholic - you can be sober for 15 years and then there's one seemingly thing that could set it off again.

As for your girlfriend, you have to be patient. It probably took her a long time and A LOT of courage just to tell you. You can't expect her to see herself differently in a day. People do have good points - let her understand that you care for her and want her to be healthy - of course tell her she's beautiful but not excessively. The biggest thing is slowly getting her to accept herself and acknowledge that she has an ED and that she needs help. Try and get her to talk to her parents, or if not, at least a doctor or a counsellor. Most schools will have someone she can talk to privately. Once she gets to a dr. just be there for her. she'll need someone who's not out to judge her and "isn't against" her.
 
only in a woman's head does it make sense to puke up your carbs rather than burn them at the gym, or cut them out of your diet. whatever's easiest, i guess..
 
most people who are bulimic have a combination of ed's and other disorders. like body dysmorphic disorder for example. it's not always about "losing weight" and exercising. it goes deeper than that

 
sometimes i make myself puke after eating.

like when i eat a big dinner then friends are like yo one out we're leaving now. puke that shit up or i'll never get drunk.

or when i eat a shit ton of really bad food, just like fuck it. puke it up, enjoy the food none of the calories. awwww yea. its awesome bro. only happens every other week
 
I saw on Ellen that you are suppos to tell them they look like shit instead of looking skinny and good. Because they are seeking admiration.
 
I swear like 50 percent of the people just do it for attention. Same with people who kill themselves. "Oh im killing myself" **Pops to baby tylenol and has a glass of milk** Make's facebook status, the worlds is too tough, I'm leaving you now, sorry. Make's sure to contact 25 people with texts and calls to let them know that she's killing herself.

Punch her in the snatch, that'll teach her.

I have an eating disorder. I'm fucking hungry all the time and I don't even blaze anymore. I'm the fattest skinny guy I know. HELP

 
You should most definitely support her if you care about her. If you have any questions you can PM me, I went to an ED treatment center for four months last year.
 
Oh don't worry, there are plenty of girls out there with exercise bulimia as well. Last I checked it wasn't a healthy alternative in any way, shape or form.

As for OP an ultimatum is a bad idea. What she needs now is support and somebody to keep encouraging her to get help. There is more tied up in the disease than just weight issues (the need to feel in control etc) and she needs the stability and somebody she can trust if she's going to get through this.
 
I think that's good, it's best to show you want to know what's going on and that you want to help her. But in terms of actually helping her, there's not much you can do other than be supportive of her. I personally think that if somebody has an eating disorder, to any degree, professional help is the best route to go. It's better to do that before it gets too bad because it's easier to overcome when it's not so severe. Just be supportive and try to talk her into seeing a professional.
 
I bet if we ignored them completely 3/4 of the people with eating disorders would go away. All the attention it get is incredibly attractive to people. Yes there are girls with actual problems but I doubt the majority would be doing it if it wasn't for the attention.

Maybe they would go become a lesbian throughout highschool to get attention and stop hurting themselves.
 
take this advice. more than anything. i know im a guy, but i know quite a bit about this subject. you cant just tell her to stop, it doesnt work like that. its 100% in her head, and she feels more than anything that she doesnt deserve something or is jealous, or hates herself. i know it sounds like a complete dick move, but tell her parents. this issue is wayyyyyy to big for you to take on by yourself, despite what you may think or what she tells you. professional help is the only solution, and by talking to her parents is the one way she will get it.
 
if she does it because she is self conscious about her body, tell her she can rot out all her teeth from the stomach acid. thatll prolly change her mind
 
People, I was kidding for the majority of my post aside from the part where I said remind her you think she is a beautiful person, and get healthy together. The rest was not serious at all. So stop taking my words out of context.
 
no, your completely fucking wrong. people with eating disorders want nothing more than to keep them a secret. its an addiction, a weakness, and embarassing. its a problem about self worth, and having an eating disorder only enhances their lack of self worth. its not some made up shit, and ill admit as a guy its almost impossible to understand. but its real. some preteen girls may throw up or whatever and just be like OMG, i have an eating disorder so people pay attention to them, but the reality is they dont. so i can see where you coming from, but those who have real eating disorders, well. yea
 
But you said if you ignore them, they would go away. Which is completely not true at all...
 
Pee in her butt?

JK, my friend had the same situation and was able to get healthy by going to a doctor and counselor.
 
according to you only 1/4 of the people have it. im just saying that the people who are vocal about it are the attention whores, i agree with you there. but if we stopped treating eating disorders, who prospers? the ones who really dont have them and the rest literally die.you deny care to those who really have them based on those who are "faking for attention".
 
alright so before i can convince her to see a doctor i told her to try and talk to me after she does it...good? bad? any suggestions in the meantime?
 
If she talks to you after she does it there's nothing you can do for her, but if she talks to you before it could prevent her from doing it.
 
alright...she said she was never going to do it again, then she did it, again. i talked to her after and she said once again that she was done for good...i dont know how to respond
 
the acid from vomit will ruin her esophagus and will ruin her teeth my eating away at them it is a serious health risk...the best thing to do is for her to talk to a counselor
 
these kinds of disorders are a lot like addictions. it's also a fear of food and getting fat. she really needs counseling as someone already said, and often these people will seldom go through with quitting very easily. there's a lot of chances for relapse and etc. continue being supportive but make it very clear that you do not want false promises as it will affect the state of your relationship. if you really care about it, then you will be willing to help as much as you can, but there's obviously some point where you can't help anymore. where your boundaries lies are really individual. these types of situations can weigh heavily on a relationship, and can at times cause separations just because of the stress or because the person with the illness just feels inadequate and sets up situations without realizing it. i would suggest that you offer to see someone with her even just once, or just help her go through the steps of finding help and just making sure she gets there. sharing it with you means she might be in a place where she knows what she is doing is bad but doesn't know how to quit. support is always the best because it helps give people incentive to improve themselves, because otherwise if no one cares then "there's no point". good luck.
 
Whatever you do don't give her an ultimatum.

An ultimatum is probably the WORST thing you can give someone who has any type of disorder or addiction. She will basically say "fuck you I don't need you' then break up with you and become depressed.
 
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