Am I old?

soulskier

soulskier

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I have a mortgage, full time job, have passed pretending to enjoy scotch and actually do, I'm soon to be married, have more food in my fridge than beer, and typically need a nap to make it through the day.

At 25 I think I'm far too young to feel old, I'm enjoying life but how do I rejuvenate my youth?

All suggestions are appreciated unless you want me to play in traffic.

Thanks,
 
But in all seriousness go out and do something that you used to do when you were younger that you thoroughly enjoyed. Or connect with old friends.
 
Well, what do you like to do? What do you want to do? with a full time job, I have no clue. Buy a dog. Go skiing more. Don't tell yourself you're old. Learn a craft or hobby. Read books. Instead of going to beach on a vacation, go on some sort of adventure.

I don't fucking know. I'm 17. You have a fiancee, go on an adventure with her. Again, I don't know.
 
having a full time job and being married kinda makes you old regardless of your actual age.. i got friends in their mid 20's in your situation and yeah, they might as well be 40. while i've got friends in their mid 20's, hell a couple around 30 that dont have a "career" or responsibilities, nowhere near marriage, etc.. and they've got the maturity of a 12 year old, but in a good way, as in having fun and fucking around is their #1 priority, daily. they could tell you they were 18 and you'd believe it.

but yeah, unfortunately, if ya wanna do grown up stuff and have grown up responsibilities it kind of forces you to act like an old guy. shit i know kids straight out of high school who were where you're at when they were 19. just depends on what you value.
 
do what you do for fun and try new stuff for fun. get a solid group and do (moderately) stupid stuff with them. If it makes you feel any better Will Wesson is 25 and he takes advantage of fun times, so maybe use him as an inspiration
 
12989709:angusbeef said:
do what you do for fun and try new stuff for fun. get a solid group and do (moderately) stupid stuff with them. If it makes you feel any better Will Wesson is 25 and he takes advantage of fun times, so maybe use him as an inspiration
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will wesson? why just him? im pretty sure like half the professional skiers out there are like 25 and older..
 
I'm pretty much in your situation. 26, married, real job, own a home.

I decided that rather than try to feel younger I act way older than I actually am.

I bought as many manual woodworking tools as I could find. The only shoes I wear are all white New balance. I spend my afternoons sitting on the porch in a full suit. If people come up to me I give them crazy eyes and tell them to remove themselves from my property. Whenever someone talks about a black person I grumpily say racist shit and walk away. I rarely go out to eat and when I do, it's always before 6pm and I never tip.

Then people are always surprised by how young I am. Do that OP. You'll feel young in no time.
 
This thread makes me glad I broke up with my ex girlfriend. She is a freshman in college and got a new bf and she is talking about marrying him and how excited she is to have kids and settle down right after undergrad and all this.

Fuck that shit, I love the girl to death but I plan on wild'n out for a few years and experiencing life to the fullest. Can't be spontaneous and adventurous nearly as much with that shit tying me down. Especially after undergrad before grad school I plan on living a pretty nomadic lifestyle and taking winters off to live in Cooke City or Red Lodge and ride. Don't see myself settling down until I find a girl worth settling for and even if so, not until I have experienced a lot of what I want to experience. Maybe around 30 that seems like a reasonable age.
 
You're only as old as you think you are. I used to coach hockey with a group of guys ranging from ages 20 to 37, and you better believe we had some awesome nights out on the town when the players were in bed for curfew. Just do things that make you happy and get involved with friends that share the same interests, age is just a number man.
 
12994009:Thizzle. said:
This thread makes me glad I broke up with my ex girlfriend. She is a freshman in college and got a new bf and she is talking about marrying him and how excited she is to have kids and settle down right after undergrad and all this.

Fuck that shit, I love the girl to death but I plan on wild'n out for a few years and experiencing life to the fullest. Can't be spontaneous and adventurous nearly as much with that shit tying me down. Especially after undergrad before grad school I plan on living a pretty nomadic lifestyle and taking winters off to live in Cooke City or Red Lodge and ride. Don't see myself settling down until I find a girl worth settling for and even if so, not until I have experienced a lot of what I want to experience. Maybe around 30 that seems like a reasonable age.
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I will never understand how/why people want to "settle down" right out of school. your 20's, even 30's have the potential of being your most exciting, free to do and experience everything, years. like who the fuck gets done with college and says to themselves "now that my opportunities are endless, i think ill get a 9-5, wear a suit, have kids, and be comfortable"?

I actually look forward to settling down at some point, but it will be because i spent so much damn time having fun, pushing myself, doing crazy shit, and experiencing everything i could to its fullest, that i'll actually need to take it easy and relax some. but fuck doing that now, settling down in your 20's seems like your just skipping one major, important, and awesome part of your life, and instead spending the next 70 years doing the same routine and being comfortable.
 
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I will never understand how/why people want to "settle down" right out of school. your 20's, even 30's have the potential of being your most exciting, free to do and experience everything, years. like who the fuck gets done with college and says to themselves "now that my opportunities are endless, i think ill get a 9-5, wear a suit, have kids, and be comfortable"?
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Believe it or not, some people have a different view of what they want to do with their life than you do. Fuckin plebs.
 
topic:soulskier said:
I have a mortgage, full time job, have passed pretending to enjoy scotch and actually do, I'm soon to be married, have more food in my fridge than beer, and typically need a nap to make it through the day.

At 25 I think I'm far too young to feel old, I'm enjoying life but how do I rejuvenate my youth?

All suggestions are appreciated unless you want me to play in traffic.

Thanks,
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No.

I'm married, we just sold our house and are looking at a new one today. We both have full time jobs, and my wife volunteers as well. I love my weekend naps with the cat on the couch, but I don't like scotch.

We're both beyond the things that we used to enjoy in our youth. I don't want to go drinking at the bar or shotgun beers anymore. It was fun then, but I'm over it.
 
12994221:TheSeaCaptain said:
Believe it or not, some people have a different view of what they want to do with their life than you do. Fuckin plebs.
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Yeah i know those people, they're like the OP complaining about it, or like my friends who are depressed as fuck and bored out of their minds. or divorced already with a kid. sounds awesome.

But really, i know people have their different priorities. and there are the occasional people i've seen who got married straight out of highschool or college and actually seem pretty damn happy, but they're rare.

I just think more often than not people do it because their "supposed to", dont have priorities or goals, or just plain dont think logically. they think their in love with their girlfriend of 6 months and for some reason marriage seems like a good idea to them at that point.

I think a lot of times its just young, inexperienced, emotional thinkers who dont actually think about what their doing.
 
dude i bitch about it a lot on here but the world "old" has no business being in any 20something's mouth...

you have DECADES left, don't start thinking this "i'm old boohoo" shit now or in 20 years, nevermind 40, youre going to look back and cringe

youre 26? fantastic, youre in your mental and physical prime. it's cool that you have some grown up shit going on but don't let that stop you from being active and happy...go get it. you'll have plenty of time to do nothing but go to work, watch tv, and go to sleep
 
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I think a lot of times its just young, inexperienced, emotional thinkers who dont actually think about what their doing.
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The same could be said about the 22 year-olds who decide to "have an adventure", go backpacking in Europe, decimate their already horrible credit because they're doing things they can't afford and spend the next ten years of their life trying to make up for lost time when they should have been considering the repercussions of their "most exciting, free to do and experience everything, years."

The same argument can be made for poor decisions made in a rash, immature state of mind in the spirit of youth and freedom. Just because you get married and get a job doesn't mean you become an old dude from a movie who hates his life and wishes he could go back to college. As seen by several people on this thread.

I'm just saying some people have a different mindset when they get out of college and their dream isn't top ramen and paycheck-to-paycheck living for 5 more years. It's owning their own home and learning how to maintain it with someone they've shared the last 6 years of their life with.
 
12994237:TheSeaCaptain said:
The same could be said about the 22 year-olds who decide to "have an adventure", go backpacking in Europe, decimate their already horrible credit because they're doing things they can't afford and spend the next ten years of their life trying to make up for lost time when they should have been considering the repercussions of their "most exciting, free to do and experience everything, years."

The same argument can be made for poor decisions made in a rash, immature state of mind in the spirit of youth and freedom. Just because you get married and get a job doesn't mean you become an old dude from a movie who hates his life and wishes he could go back to college. As seen by several people on this thread.

I'm just saying some people have a different mindset when they get out of college and their dream isn't top ramen and paycheck-to-paycheck living for 5 more years. It's owning their own home and learning how to maintain it with someone they've shared the last 6 years of their life with.
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I understand that, just not for me. Maybe if I found a good girl who really made me want to share my life with her but fuck it im 19 and haven't found her yet and am not stressing about it. And even if I found that girl, ideally she would be down to travel/snowboard/ etc.. and not want to build or own a home and settle in it right away. And I see what you are saying about brash immature decisions, so I guess it really doesn't matter which direction you go in life as long as you are prepared and excited for it. Because it's possible to life an incredibly adventurous and fulfilling lifestyle throughout your younger years and still put yourself in a good position to settle down later. I plan on traveling and gaining experience as a biological technician, and then joining the peace corps for a couple years to get that experience. And when I am out, I will hit grad school and get my Masters and then be extremely qualified for a district wildlife biologist position with extra benefits and better pay since it is a federal job and I have the Peace Corps on my resume. Then I can build a little cabin in the woods with my life and life a nice simple existence still doing the things that I love until I actually get old. But idk, I think old is a mindset. Because I know my 45 year old dad who has worked manual labor and contracting for that last 20+ years 10 hours a day, really enjoys to relax on the couch with his family and dog and grill and do old man shit. But then there are the 60 year old dad's on the mtn still ripping and hitting the trees for safety meetings with their teenage kids and acting a lot younger than their age.
 
12994213:XtRemE11 said:
I will never understand how/why people want to "settle down" right out of school. your 20's, even 30's have the potential of being your most exciting, free to do and experience everything, years. like who the fuck gets done with college and says to themselves "now that my opportunities are endless, i think ill get a 9-5, wear a suit, have kids, and be comfortable"?

I actually look forward to settling down at some point, but it will be because i spent so much damn time having fun, pushing myself, doing crazy shit, and experiencing everything i could to its fullest, that i'll actually need to take it easy and relax some. but fuck doing that now, settling down in your 20's seems like your just skipping one major, important, and awesome part of your life, and instead spending the next 70 years doing the same routine and being comfortable.
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I'm with you there. I'm 24, 25 in 3 weeks, and cant understand all my friends from HS and college who are marrying and kids right now. I'm dating a girl I can see myself marrying, but we both agree no matter what lets put it off. I'll be getting the 9-5 suit job but will still be taking time off, traveling, doing fun stuff on the weekends. I just dont get why people want to rush into things. Take your time, life is a long journey.
 
12994307:Thizzle. said:
I guess it really doesn't matter which direction you go in life as long as you are prepared and excited for it.
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Totally. That's what it all comes down to. And you'd be astounded at how much plans change and dreams shift over the years. I'm working in a totally different industry and living in a totally different part of the country than I thought I would be at 20 and I love it.
 
Old people are bad at trampolines, so if you have a trampoline and can do some decent stuff on it..You're not too old yet
 
I'm pretty sure it's not possible to "be old" if you're in your 20's. I have a feeling that the rest of the world views people in their 20's the same way people in their 20's view high schoolers or college kids.

That said, I'm a 23 year old curmudgeon who spends his days criticizing young people relentlessly, so I feel like we're in the same boat.
 
occasionally i play this game where i get wasted and see how "sober" i can pretend to be.

typically this game just involves getting into conversations or talking to people that i should realistically have no business being involved in or with, and seeing how much sense i can make whilst being blasted.

i enjoy this game, and normally all goes well.

i feel like you could alter this game slightly and use it towards your "am i old conundrum".

you are old, but youre pretending youre not old.

have fun op.

and remember, excessive drinking and smoking will help you feel much older, much quicker.
 
Well NS, today I sit here asking the opposite question

I play video games, drive far too fast, laugh at the sound/smell of my own farts, drink all day instead being productive, and am still wasting countless hours on NS to help make it through the day.

At 25, I feel like I am far too young to feel this old. I am enjoying the hell out of life but need to know how to grow up and start acting my own age.

Any help is appreciated as long as you don't tell me to use a railroad track as a pillow.

Thanks
 
13019776:soulskier said:
Well NS, today I sit here asking the opposite question

I play video games, drive far too fast, laugh at the sound/smell of my own farts, drink all day instead being productive, and am still wasting countless hours on NS to help make it through the day.

At 25, I feel like I am far too young to feel this old. I am enjoying the hell out of life but need to know how to grow up and start acting my own age.

Any help is appreciated as long as you don't tell me to use a railroad track as a pillow.

Thanks
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Dude i hope when im your age in 3-4 years i am still doing that shit. In fact you just got me stoked because a still have 3-4 years until im at that point! Thanks OP!
 
13019776:soulskier said:
Well NS, today I sit here asking the opposite question

I play video games, drive far too fast, laugh at the sound/smell of my own farts, drink all day instead being productive, and am still wasting countless hours on NS to help make it through the day.

At 25, I feel like I am far too young to feel this old. I am enjoying the hell out of life but need to know how to grow up and start acting my own age.

Any help is appreciated as long as you don't tell me to use a railroad track as a pillow.

Thanks
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no, you're just a guy :P
 
28. Working on my second graduate degree. Not currently in a relationship. Came to the realization the day after my birthday this year that I am closer to 40 than I am to 16. I drank heavily that night. I still drink like I'm living in the undergrad fraternity house. I suppose eventually I will give up on life and get married and a 9-5 and a wife and nice house in burbs and 2.2 kids, but I am having too much fun right now to think about that. I'm sure there are worse? better? examples here on NS, but you're not alone.
 
I've been married to my old ball and chain three big years now. We love whiskey, beer, MOST music loud. We plan trips pretty randomly only living out of back packs. We play video games together sometimes. Make fun of each other relentlessly.

I only feel old when my hangover lasts longer than a day. My back aches in the morning. And the fact that porns stars coming of age are born in 1996.
 
turned 31 yesterday. Hate my b-days now. makes me depressed. I am now trying to workout and get healthy and strong to make me feel like i'm 18 again.

Kids enjoy your youth cause once its gone, its fucking gone.
 
Nope. Not old. Make it a point to get out and be active, you will snap out of it pretty fast no matter what age you are.
 
You're just acting old. I've got a couple years on you and yes, my hangovers have gotten worse in the past decade. Other than that, the body feels around the same. Yea, you're going to be skiing a lot less, if at all, because you're working 70+ hours per week, but now you have the miles to fly business to Europe whenever you want. So there are tradeoffs. And your desire for wanting to drink at 4 PM every Friday and shotgunning beers will go down, but that doesn't mean you should stop doing it.

You just need to compensate in other ways, move to beach, actually be able to pay for bar tabs and unlimited uber.

Unless you bought some tract home in the suburbs, then you've just given up and that's on you.
 
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