Am i a bad boyfriend?

gbirrd

gbirrd

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k well right now i feel like shit so you tell me cuz i really dont know, heres the story.

So im been going out with her for about 2 months now. Iv been her first for everything so far.(im 16, same with her)

And so for our relationship shes said to me alot i love you. and she really does mean it when she says it because iv been her first for everything. When she says it iv said it back to her but everytime iv said it i feel like a dick because i know i dont really mean. it. I know forsure i can mean it but for now its to early to say it and when i wanted to say it i wanted to mean it. Today she challenge me on it and said do you really mean it. and i told her i dont want to lie so i told her i felt pressured into saying these things and i was not sure what to do.

So now she feels as if she needs to back off. And i dont know what to do. cuz i really like her but i have no idea what to do. cuz before i didnt have the balls to tell her cuz i didnt want to hurt her.

and i know its some highschool relationship but w.e help me out

am i a dick? if soo wtf should i do
 
Nothing says love like b your l on her t's....

that said, you can't lie about that shit, and if she backs off she can't love you that much anyway
 
sounds easy enough but i think she would be more pissed im telling ppl i dont really know about this and asking for advice lol.
 
well, i have nothing to contribute.
but for some reason i read the title more like, "am i bad for my boyfriend"
needless to say, i clicked on your profile.
 
hey man, at least you're keeping it real. nothing annoys me more than people who start saying 'I love you' when they've been going out for half a day.

Just explain to her pretty much what you said here, that for you it's a really big committment and you're not quite sure if you're at that stage yet. also throw in that when you do say it to her it'll be that much better because she'll know you mean it
 
get a local mariachi band together and go play some slow song(doesnt have to be about love as long as she doesnt know spanish) out side of her window and give her a dozen red roses and a box of those shitty heart candies that say i love you
 
thanks ill just tell her what i said here. im just scared to do it cuz i feel if i tell her im going to break her heart i guess. but ill say it in the nicest way i can i guess
 
well she did put the pressure on you by saying it first, and you probably just blurted it back at her? really, 2 months isnt real love. its a certain type of love, but it can fade very fast if either of you do something out of the "ordinary"

if she means it and really believes that she loves you, but you arent sure about all of it yet, she shouldnt back off. obviosuly you have feelings for her. and you said that it could turn into real love which you should probably tell her that.

explain to her that you arent positive yet, that you really like her, and that you think it could be love. eventually.
 
dude thats highschool girls for you, i dealt with that like a month ago.

just explain to her that you need to grow into it yadadamean?
 
^^^^ the answer to EVERYTHING right here. If you ever need an answer or help in a relationship always pee in her butt. if that fails, then shit i don't know what to tell ya.
 
this movie is literally the biggest homewrecker out there. i'd say you handled yourself pretty well and if shes upset its understandable but she needs to understand you.
 
nah dude your not

i mean you obviously dont love her

(come on your 16)

alot of people will say i love you

(even though they dont mean it)

because who says

i like you?

no body.... so they say i love you

your not a dick tho man...
 
she's attached and all clingy because you're her first for everything. girls are weird like that until they fuck a few different people and realize it's more of a fun thing to do than an "intimate" thing to do. tell her the real deal....say that you like her but you've been going out for such little time so obviously there's no way you could be in love with each other. shit could take two years...not two months. if she thinks you're a dick, that just tells you she's immature and that chances are would of been a waste of time anyway.
high school relationships are pointless. in some cases they'll go on for years but sorry buddy, once college hits your girl is going DICK WILD. it's a proven fact. girls like to get fucked by literally all races, genders, and objects when they get into college. don't worry bro, you'll get laid too. just don't fuck it up by going out with somebody, because you will get cheated on, especially in a dorm situation.
I went out with my most recent ex for like three months and I thought I loved her (never said it but felt way different about her)...but then I realized it probably had something to do with her fetish for wearing goggles and a beanie during sex (and nothing else) and quick warm up fucks in the keystone parking lot during those cold days. she would also touch my penis on the lift and give me really good rewards (blowjobs) for landing new tricks.
 
shes 16 all girls at that age are immature and clingy, she doesn't love you and you don't love her, you can't even really imagine love at that point, both of you are just too young to understand it, but we all went through that stage so its all good.
you answered her questions honestly which makes you a good boyfriend. she just needs to relax.
 
just be honest about everything, be yourself, lots of relationships dont work out because ppl act special to get into the relationship at first and then can't keep up the act, you can't change people...If you start acting honest, maybe she'll change too, in a good way maybe... you dont have to walk around hand in hand, cuddling and saying, oh i love you, i know lots of good relationships where they're just really really good friends, and imho those are the best ones, you have much more good times with a really good friend then you can have with a lovemate (yes, you can still have sex with your friend)
so just tell her the truth, dont dump her or anything, and maybe your relationship will change for the better!(ps: you have nothing to lose, either your relation improves or it breaks up what isnt necessarily a bad thing since you seriously dont want to be in a relationship against your will....)
 
well for one we saw way too much of each other. did everything together, basically lived together, not a good way to start off a relationship. things got weird and we both started getting mad at each other for dumb shit. also she had some issues in her life that I guess my dick couldn't fix...not to mention a psychotic and abusive ex-boyfriend that she actually wound up going back to. now that I look back on things I was the rebound, but hey, I had some fun. word on the street is that they broke up and now she's kinda back on my dick. maybe we'll start over, who knows.
oh and always remember this...I think this is the key to dealing with girls....don't try unless you're fucking hammered and expect nothing 95% of the time. that way when you actually get laid (and you're sober) it's great and when you get fucked over you brush it off super easy.
 
Its good that you learned this lesson now man...It took me a little longer...NEVER WATCH ROMANCE WHEN THINGS ARE GOOD...save it for the bad, watch romantic comedies and shit so that you can laugh how you aren't like that.

Also another bit of advice is, turn it back on her...say something like, "How can you be so sure of yourself? Because to say something like that, and changing your mind, is worse than me holding back, and making up my mind..." Works everytime, they cry a little bit...but trust me on this one, it's a sure sign that the relationship is going to be over in the near future anyway.

Good Luck, Take notes, every relationship ends in this or death so consider yourself lucky I guess.
 
you're only 16. why do you even have a girlfriend? be single and fuck around as much as possible you damned pussy. life is too short and youre still a baby. take advantage. stop watching mtv.
 
i think love has lost it's meaning along with words like gay, faggot, nigger, and such. i think you should just say the word even if you dont love her, because she doesnt love you either, and if your having trouble because you think your lieing to her just compare it to when you call your best bud a fag because he did something stupid, when in actuality he pulls way more pussy then you.

thats how i look at it atleast
 
This really wont make sense to you right now but she doesn't love you, its a high school relationship and its been 2 months. You'll both find out later in life what actual love is.

Just be honest and stick to what your morals are, she will respect you more in the long run.

Probably not gonna get you laid, but better to learn these lessons now than go through being a fucking douche in life and lots of failed relationships like the other 90% of the planet.
 
ok so here's my opinion as a girl

no you are not being a dick, but you should of been honest earlier on. hopefully you explained to her that you want to be sure you actually do love her when you say it but for now you really really like her. if she is backing off its natural she doens't trust you as much. but if she really likes you that much and you like her it will be fine in the end.
 
yea pretty much what others have been saying; it's super unlikely that she is actually in love with you. that's not to say somebody at your age can't be in love, if she says it after like 6 months or something then it's probably legit because that's long enough to really learn to care for somebody, but right now she just thinks she loves you because you've introduced her to all that stuff. so frankly, even if you might have come off as a dick, i think you're a good boyfriend for making her realize that it isn't normal, especially at your age, to fall in love that quickly. she'll get over it.
 
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